The 5 Undeniable Steps to Stardom
The Jubilee Academy
Wednesday, 4 December 2013 15:18
THE 5 UNDENIABLE STEPS TO STARDOM.
How beautiful those twinkling little lights which spread across the skies when the dark clouds gather are. It draws my mind back to seasons in my life when we all stood or sat reciting those wonderful lines repeatedly. I must admit that those rhymes are timeless lessons, evergreen classics and indeed maxims which in some profound way speak to us today. We usually chanted thus:
Twinkle, Twinkle little star, how I wonder what you are
Up above the world so high, like a diamond in the sky…….
Wonderful lines? Truly. However I’ll like you to know that stars are not little, the scientists say that the largest star would easily engulf the earth, mars, Jupiter and Saturn. The smallest dwarf stars are about the size of the earth. Therefore, though the stars are different yet they are not small.
Hidden in every being is a desire to shine; a voice to be heard, a feat to be accomplished. In you lies the capacity to dominate. In fact, stardom speaks of stars having dominion, exercising their God-given authority. There is a mass of greatness in you. Thomas Edison once said if we did all the things we are capable of doing we would literally astonish ourselves. There is a Star in you that longs to show forth its glory.
No one aiming to look at a star looks into a building or a start digging into the ground, the gaze is directed towards the skies. The problem with the present generation is that we have more of spectators and analyst and less people who are willing, like Mahatma Gandhi said to be the change we needs to see in the world. It’s not about talking the talk but rather about walking the walk. It pays to be a partaker than to be an On-looker (God forbid that I watch things happen). It’s usually said that there are those who watch things happen, there are some who wonder how things happen and finally there are also who make things happen. What category do you belong to? The word of the Bishop ever lives with me: You are not created to make a living but to make an Impact.
I’ll have you to know this for a fact that every created being was not made to create or formulate a purpose. Rather we’ve been called to find and fulfil purpose. Mark Twain once said there are two important days in life, the day we were born and the day we discover why. A purpose driven life is that which adds salt to the earth and Light where darkness dominates.
A Chinese proverb says that the journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step. Get ready to explore the steps to stardom. God is forever committed to making you into who he has in mind. One principle I learnt is this: if you do what other successful people do, nothing can stop you from eventually getting the same results they do—Brian Tracy.
HERE WE GO……
• RECOGNISE THAT YOU ARE A STAR :
The heart has its tender way of giving back what you invest into it. As a man thinketh in his heart so is he. Remember the word ‘AS’, this means the pattern, paradigm the kind of mindset a man has goes a long way in determining the kind of life a man lives. Get Infected with the fact that you are a star. Your life is a product of your heart. You become what you repeatedly think about. No man became or ever becomes what he never thought about. That’s why the scriptures were given so that we could be re-programmed into the mind of God. I usually say this to myself: I am not a burden but a Blessing. You might have been born poor, but that does not mean you should have a mind of a poor man. You are responsible for what you think and that would go a long way in determining who you become. I love the words of Jesse Jackson he said, though he was born in the slums, the slums were not borne in him. Being a star is not pop-psychology, a quick-fix mental exercise. Jesus is the Bright and morning Star and you must know that we are made in His very own image and as He is so are we in this world. We have His likeness and we reflect his glory hence the fact that you are a star is indisputable, because God only reproduces after His kind. It is a knowing: Accept it, Believe it and then Become it. Knowing yourself is the first step towards becoming who you want to be.
• RECOGNISE YOUR WEAKNESSES:
I strongly believe that the next fundamental step towards your stardom is the recognition of your weakness: the areas of life where there ought to be improvement. The journey to perfection is actually undertaken by the weak ones and not the strong. In the Beginning despite the fact that God created the heaven and the earth, in the very next verse he admits to us that the earth was without form and void and he proceeded to re-creating it. We drop our weakness and those weights as we progress along the path of destiny. Mahatma Gandhi was once asked to train a young lad to stop taking sugar, Gandhi surprisingly replied the mother to give him a couple of days to stop taking sugar himself so as to be a proper example to the young lad. This is the dilemma and contradiction we face in our nation, where leaders refuse to accept their weakness and inability to manage the affairs of governance. Where are the likes of leaders who resign their appointment no matter the luxury attached because they recognise their incompetence? The picture in Africa which we see is that of leaders perpetuating themselves in power. In my honest opinion a failed state is not one with an unstable government but one who cannot produce quality leadership.
• DEVELOP THE CHARACTER OF THE PERSON YOU INTEND TO BECOME:
I read John Maxwell’s blog recently and he made a statement which struck a chord in my heart. He said if you want to be a successful leader, learn to lead before you have a Leadership position. Character development is a rigorous process; it is not something we are born with, it is something that is acquired through experience in life. Our character is shaped by the several occurrences of our lives from childhood. Good character is a proceed of good seeds sown and vice-versa. You never become a star in a marathon by just registering and running in one, neither can you be called a boxer because you love to watch and talk about the sport. The place of training is imperative. Many great leaders of old and present evolved a noble character through sufferings. The likes of Yinka Obalade who said Poverty condemned him to success, Steve Harris who went from being a college drop-out to a corporate sell-out. Jesse Jackson, one of America’s finest politicians in a speech once said: suffering breeds character, character breeds faith and at the end faith would not disappoint. When we mention names like Fela Durotoye what comes to mind are thoughts like impact, Leadership, Influence and Relevance. Character cannot be bought off the supermarket. A Yoruba saying goes thus ‘iwalewa’ meaning character is the definition of beauty, character is precious and highly valued. Let your sufferings, pain and past produce in you a passion to save others who might be going through such situations. That’s what stars do. Kanu Nwankwo had a heart condition, later on he went ahead to establish Kanu Heart Foundation to help those have the same problems. It is sufferings that produce character and successful life stories have a way of healing the heart, giving hope to the hopeless, strength to the weak. I won’t forget Jesus, scripture says ‘for it became him, for whom are all things and by whom are all things, in bringing many sons to glory, to make the captain of their salvation perfect through SUFFERINGS’. Though he was God he wouldn’t have been effective in his calling if he hadn’t gone through the sufferings. Now he can heal the broken hearted, help those who are tempted. Your character is of inestimable value, don’t trade it for anything. Remember suffering breeds experience (maturity of character), and experience hope and hope will not disappoint.
• POSITION YOURSELF PROPERLY:
The profound words of Sir Isaac Newton still resonates in my heart at this moment, he once mentioned this: if I see farther it is because I stood on the shoulders of giants. His discoveries are still relevant in the field of science today. Proper positioning is fundamental to your stardom. There is a popular saying that experience is the best teacher. This is true to some extent. But a wise man once remarked that though experience is the best teacher it is better if it is not your own experience. This is his message: There are certain mistakes you make in life that may put you in a shape where it is impossible to pick any lessons from them. In other words, the experience of another person is your best teacher! Pure wisdom. From the foregoing we can conclude proper positioning in life guarantees that you will not make certain mistakes others who have gone ahead of you made. Biographies, autobiographies of great men intrigue me. Find out the rough paths which the great ones today took and you’ll discover a great deal of resources which would be useful for your journey. You know in the game of football and basketball your chances of goal scoring depends on how properly positioned you are. Get a Mentor, Discipler, Teacher to take you through the School Of Destiny. Every great leader today was once a follower of another leader. I discovered that every Leader must be led. The likes of Kenneth Copeland, Pastor Adeboye, Bishop Oyedepo and others all tapped from the unction that flowed from Kenneth Hagin. Karl Marx followed the teachings of George Frederick Hegel and Feubarch closely though he deviated yet the writings of these persons served as the foundation for his historical and dialectical materialism. Be extremely careful as regard whom you follow because who you follow determines to a large extent who you will become.
• FIND YOUR TEAM:
We currently live in an inter-connected reality; countries are forming pacts and alliances just to be able to create a better life for its people. The word team means Together Each Achieves More. No one ever achieved greatness without the help of others, though w celebrate Henry Ford today for his innovation as regards automobile engineering, but obviously we know that he couldn’t have been the one assembly the cars at the assembly line, he only gave the idea and others worked together to see that the goal is accomplished. With the use of the internet connectivity just became more inevitable. This lends credence to the work of Stephen Covey in the 7 habits of highly effective people, where he wrote that Interdependence is a higher value than dependence. You can never succeed alone, you need others. In the skies what makes the stars so attractive are the different clusters making it more beautiful a sight to behold. Being the Light of the World is not by Confession but by Proper Positioning. The joy of being a star really is worth the while when there are others to celebrate it with you. Our Lord Jesus has ascended up on high to prepare a place for us so we could come to reign with Him forever. Find your team, the quality and quantity of your achievements is dependent on it.
Bottom Line: You Need People.
Abstinence is Not A Bad Word
The Jubilee Academy
Monday, 2 December 2013 16:00
Our body is a temple created to honor God. The bible clearly states that we should abstain from everything that’s immoral including sexual immorality. As Christian parents we have a responsibility to educate our children on the biblical principals put forth by God. The debate on whether sexual education in school is ongoing. Should our schools have the responsibility of teaching our children about sex, birth control, etc. or should this important subject matter be better left to the parents? My concern is that when the subject of sex is broached, it appears as though all the options are covered except one very important option and that is abstinence.
In today’s culture abstinence has unfortunately become a bad word. Abstinence by many is considered old fashioned and unrealistic when in reality abstinence is exactly what we should be teaching our children. Parents have given too much control over to the schools, allowing them to be responsible for the reproduction education that children should be receiving at home.
Parents should have an open dialogue with their children about sex in a spiritual and biblical context. Pretending sexual temptation doesn’t exist won’t make it disappear. Kids need to be educated on the spiritual, emotional, physical, and mental implications of having sex when they are teenagers. Abstinence is realistic and it can be promoted within the family. Society is more interested in providing birth control than being an advocate of abstinence and getting to the root of the issue.
The most important reason we need to promote abstinence with our children is one that is often overlooked. The reason is it is what God wants from his children. Beyond all of the obvious reasons, our children should understand that their body is sacred, a temple, that is to glorify the Lord and only to be shared in marriage. It seems God is ignored when there are debates about sex education.
Our culture screams sex around every corner. Television shows like, “The Secret Life of the American Teenager,” whose focus is on teens having sex is one example of how our culture promotes promiscuity. One character, Amy has a baby, but that doesn’t deter the rest of the teenagers from having sex and with multiple partners. Even the parents have a nonchalant attitude when it comes to their teens sleeping around. What is amazing to me is this show is on ABC Family! Television irresponsibly glamorizes sex making it seem enticing without dealing with the consequences of having premarital sex. It neglects to show the real hardships of teenage pregnancy, the emotional turmoil of sexual relationships, the spiritual damage, and the physical risks.
As parents it is our job to be aware of what our teens are doing, who they are friends with, and if the type of relationships they’re engaging in are appropriate. We can’t just tell them, “Don’t have sex, because I said so.” We have to explain why sex is meant for marriage, why God tells us not to engage in premarital sex, and we need to make them aware of the consequences. Don’t be afraid to tell your children that sex outside of marriage is a sin. There are spiritual boundaries and it is okay to talk about them. When the time is right share your own experiences, whether they fell in line with God’s will or not, these are teachable moments for your kids. Don’t forget to tell them about the consequences, I know it is embarrassing especially when we fall short, but often our personal experience is the best teacher. Conversations about abstinence should originate in the home. Let’s teach our children that abstinence isn’t a bad word, but a way of life that honors God. The foundation is not built in school, but built under your roof.
A Teen’s Commitment to Purity
The Jubilee Academy
Wednesday, 27 November 2013 15:50
My son was nervous on this Sunday morning. Never liking to be the center of attention, he didn’t treasure the idea of being in front of everyone during the service, but the promise he was making this morning was one that would also be a wonderful testimony and important to be witnessed by the congregation. For his fourteenth birthday, he asked for a purity ring for one of his gifts. The pastor prepared a special ceremony for the occasion and by the end of the service, both men and women were found wiping tears away! It reminded me of a wedding service, except the ring on his finger was a commitment between him and the Lord
School stories from my son helped me recognize how hard it is to be a teen these days and what a huge step he was making to stand apart from the masses and dare to be different. What he committed to was to remain pure for Christ. He committed to keep his body pure when dating, and to abstain from drugs and alcohol. The ring will serve as a constant reminder of his commitment to Christ and his promise to remain pure.
When he accepted Jesus Christ as his personal Savior, he was justified (acquitted, declared innocent) by what Jesus did for him on the cross. Jesus consecrated (set apart) him for His purposes. The purity ring on his finger is just an outward symbol of that consecration (and I believe it’s an awesome conversation starter for sharing his beliefs!). Yes, he still sins and is not perfect, but this lifetime journey that he’s on is exciting to me because he made a commitment of purity so young in his life.
Even when satan tempts us into sinning, or we think up our own sinful ideas, we can NEVER be separated from God! I John 1:9, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (NIV) However, remember this isn’t a license to keep sinning as satan sometimes tries to deceive people into thinking.
Are you up to the challenge to get out of your comfort zone and swim upstream? Forget your past. Don’t focus on your weaknesses or shortcomings. Focus on the fact that God loves you. God forgives you and God’s waiting to work THROUGH you. And I also like to think that God uses me despite myself at times! A lifetime of purity for God is a process, maybe sometimes stumbling, but never falling because God is right beside you and won’t let you fall.
Psalm 86:11 “Teach me your ways, O Lord, that I may live according to your truth! Grant me purity of heart, so that I may honor you.”
I Timothy 4:12 “Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are young. Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity.”
BREAKING FORTH INTO DESTINY.
The Jubilee Academy
Monday, 25 November 2013 15:25
Author: Oluwatobi Adesanya
Breaking forth into your destiny begins with an understanding of the scope of your journey in life. For every man there is a mandate. Your purpose is empowered by your vision………
Every Vision given is a response to a burden in the heart. The Burdens drives a person to searching, studying, inquiry and Prayer. Most times the vision is meant to solve the problems of a people, nation and society. There are key features as it relates to vision: Release, Running and Realization.
what do you see?……..
The man Jeremiah was asked ‘what do you see?’ What you see determines what you’ll get, that’s why God often times shows us Visions. He often shows the end from the beginning for He calls those things that be not as though they were. Jeremiah saw an almond tree, Jesus saw the joy that was set before him, Stephen saw the Heavens opened, Paul saw a crown laid up for him, Bill Gates saw the each home having an operating system.
Between the moments of the Release and the Realisation there is the place of Running. It is impossible to arrive at a destination without first taking a step. The delivered vision is always writable; a vision is not just an idea, thoughts or flashes, or rays of imagination, illusions or allusions. They are like paths on a race track, like a railway line. It is writable. The first place to give evidence to the vision is on paper. When the vision is released it is only a ‘it’ (at this point it is lifeless, no breath has been infused). Every vision is precise and does not lack definition. Vision means writing what you see, not saying what is seen, and it becomes a sign post that guides the path of life. Inotherwords, it is only to be written but read. Attention must be given to reading it constantly.
A vision released in the now is to meet a need of the future, hence it is for a time appointed, but there is an end, a point of the fulfilment of the released vision. There is a starting line and finishing line in every race (Chinese Proverb). At first the vision is only in a lifeless ‘it’ but when lives of men are impacted by the vision it begins to speak. Testimonies of transformed lives are the proof of the success of a vision. Patience is a necessary virtue to possess in the walk towards the fulfilment of the vision. Since the vision is a response to a need, it longs to be met and by so though even if it delays it will surely come.
No man who receives a vision should be puffed up; the revelation of the vision is to aid proper preparation for the run towards attainment. There is no room for pride, arrogance, or hastiness. Declaring to be a candidate for an electoral office does not guarantee your winning. The character of the recipient should be meekness, soberness and temperance which guide the course of action. Oftentimes the vision depicts things that you cannot do ordinarily. It is a task that cannot be achieved by sheer guts but first you must BELIEVE. It is your believing that guarantees your Becoming. Therefore, the Just (those who count themselves as having received through God’s own desire this vision) live by faith. The Faith here is a combination of Believing + Action. It propels the receiver to move.
The vision becomes totally unprofitable when the recipient does not believe it. The world will continually deteriorate when men refuse to either receive or run with their visions. God has wired us to discover not speculate about our purpose in life. Darkness will prevail if you refuse to shine as light, bitterness will destroy men when there is no salt or when it has lost its savour.
Today the vision of Martin Luther King Jr speaks, the vision of Kenneth E. Hagin speaks, the vision of Bishop Oyedepo speaks, Bill Gates, Steve Jobbs. Imagine a United States where blacks would have been sidelined forever, a world without Oyedepo would have made dead and without faith.
Perhaps only the graveyard and cemeteries would tell the tingling tales of great men who never took up the mantle of their vision, whose light were never lit and those who refuse to take responsibility for their future. A life without vision is a burden; it makes you dependent on others.
The run is not aimless or directionless, it is to obtain. To attain you have to fight a good fight of faith. It is a fight against obstacles, challenges and against personal weaknesses. You vision makes you an example, a prototype, a representation of what you carry. People should see the evidence of what you speak about.
Perhaps, there is a book you’ll love to write about, a song you’ll like to sing, a course you desire to study, don’t sit around waiting for change, stand up and make your moments count. This is a personal lesson I’ve learnt, nothing will work until you work it. All that you’ll ever need has already been deposited in you, all that is required is discovery and exploration (Eph 1:17-18)
• Constant Looking: the written vision must be constantly looked at, referred to, to see how much distance you have covered in relation to the destination,
• Endurance, Fortitude, perseverance is needed greatly. Pierre Teilhard de Chardin once said it is our duty to proceed as though the limits to our abilities do not exist. The challenges are strong enough to forestall the race. Know that whether on a visionary platform or not people are running but only those with destinations obtain. A man going nowhere will never get anywhere. You must press forward at all cost, be not slothful but followers of them who through faith and patience obtain the promises.
• In order to apprehend that for which you have been called to accomplish there must of necessity be a contention. Your breaking forth would be guaranteed through fervent prayers, wrestling, violence of Faith. Jacob wrestled with the angel. Martin Luther confronted the Papacy of Rome, Jesus confronted the Jews, the scribes, Pharisees, Mandela confronted the Apartheid regime in South Africa, and Daniel shut the mouth of lions. The three Hebrew men confronted Nebuchadnezzar. The person who apprehends is the one who contends.
• Vision imparts into you a force, a spirited confidence and courage. Shakespeare opined that the cowards will die many times before they are dead. Truly, cowards never conquer only the confident do. Truly God gave Jeremiah this with his promise in 17-19, so also Joshua etc
In the final analysis I’ll to let you know that no one would respect you on the basis of what you have written down but on what you’ve wrought. Every delivered vision must provide Proofs and Evidences that men can testify. Transformed lives are the Proof of the reality and power of a vision.
Find yours and act on it.
Scripture References: Jeremiah 1:1- end, Habakkuk 2:1-4
The Jubilee Academy
Friday, 22 November 2013 18:13
Author: Mike Ramey
The spread of more and more electronic gadgets in the marketplace allowing easier access to the cyber verse by teens has caused young people to dismiss standing on their own two feet and ‘heeding’ the taunts and catcalls of the crowd, hounding them into not only suicidal thoughts–but actions.
The best protection? A firm foundation in Jesus Christ–and His Word–as modeled in the home. It is the h-o-m-e that has been authorized to be the ultimate ‘strengthening center’ for children and teens alike; and parents are charged with the responsibility to raise up the young ones under their care to a confident adulthood. Not the church. Not para-church ministries…BUT the home.
What is a parent to do to help their children to counteract the negatives being tossed at them from a society bent upon selfishness, peer pressure, and evil? Simple: Parent Strong! Teach a child how to strengthen their minds in the love of Christ, and give them His vision of how God sees them. It’s up to y-o-u, parents!
The Bible is full of examples of young people with a vision of God’s plan for their lives. Daniel. David. The prophet Samuel. The three Hebrew men. Queen Esther. Mary, the earthly mother of Jesus Christ. Solomon. John, the beloved apostle. Each of these individuals–as teens–were used by God. Their parents taught each of these young people one thing; listen for God and ignore the negative from society.
Children model in society what they see and hear their parents modeling in their own living rooms. Your teens know their way around your workplace based upon what their hear you–parent–gossiping about at home. They know your workplace gossip by heart! Who, on the job is their own ‘man’ or ‘woman’, and who are following ‘the workplace trends’ of drugging, drinking, and cheating. Parents who actively model faith and holiness ‘raise up’ mentally strong children who are more than capable of standing on their own two feet and being leaders rather than followers.
Parents: Don’t whine! Raise your children to be a real-time warriors, instead of a part-time cyber-lemmings. There is life beyond the Iphone, video game, and social networking page. It’s never too late to ‘Parent Strong’!
Mike Ramey is a syndicated columnist and reviewer out of Indianapolis, Indiana. He can be reached at email@example.com.
Using Multiple Intelligences in Your Homeschool
The Jubilee Academy
Wednesday, 20 November 2013 16:36
Author: Crystal Pratt
In the early eighties, Dr. Howard Gardner developed a theory of multiple intelligences. He proposed that recognizing multiple intelligences in people allowed for a broader range of potential. He suggested that I.Q. tests were too limiting and that humans had a wide variety of areas in which they could be considered intelligent or gifted. He categorized eight areas of intelligence. They are linguistic, logical-mathematic, spatial, bodily-kinesthetic, musical, interpersonal, intrapersonal, and naturalist. If you have never “tested” to find you or your child’s multiple intelligence, you can try this online test: http://literacyworks.org/mi/assessment/findyourstrengths.html
. What you will probably find is that while your child may have one very strong area of intelligence, he or she will show potential in several areas.
The linguistic learner is likely to enjoy poetry, journaling, creative writing, storytelling, and alphabetizing. Your linguistic child may enjoy teaching you a concept.
The logical-mathematic learner is likely to enjoy activities that include problem solving, Venn diagrams, classifying, and puzzles. This child will really enjoy scientific experiments, cooking following a recipe, sequencing, and measuring.
People who have spatial intelligence enjoy painting, drawing, making collages, murals, and posters. An activity this type of child would enjoy would be creating a film or video as an alternative to a written report.
The kinesthetic learner will enjoy science experiments, working with manipulatives, and using computers. This child will like to dance, act, perform, and build. It is important to keep a kinesthetic learner “busy.”
While it’s probably obvious that a musical learner will enjoy music, it is important to keep in mind everything that this encompasses. This type of learner will not only enjoy playing instruments and singing. They are likely to enjoy poetry, writing to music, rhythmic patterns, writing lyrics, and studying musicians.
The interpersonal learner is going to be the outgoing child. He or she will enjoy interviewing people, teaching others, cross-age tutoring, and problem solving.
The intrapersonal child is going to enjoy less social activities such as silent reading and journal writing. He or she may also enjoy reading autobiographies and the using of imagery and dreams in writing.
The naturalist will be excellent at recognizing and classifying items in nature. They will enjoy visiting zoos and aquariums and taking nature walks. A naturalist will be interested in ecology and animal rights.
By recognizing your child’s areas of strength, you can select the appropriate homeschool curriculum for your child’s needs. You will be fostering a life-long love of learning and your child will feel respected by your attentiveness to his or her interests.
Crystal Pratt is a writer and content contributor for LessonPathways.com, an innovative new product that maps online educational resources into ready to teach units.
Advantage of Homeschooling: Socialization
The Jubilee Academy
Monday, 18 November 2013 17:42
Author: Randall & Karen Webster
Homeschooling is an education option that is widely debated by comparing and contrasting it to public school. There are always two sides to every story, and there are many topics that always seem to come up in these discussions. This article will focus on one of the popular questions: socialization, by sharing our family’s experience as it relates to this discussion.
Homeschool Kids Don’t Have Socialization
This one pops up a lot. I find it hard to understand what people mean when they say this, or why it is usually the first thing they think of when the topic of homeschooling comes up. If they mean that sending your child to spend 8 hours a day with a bunch of kids their age in relatively unsupervised conditions is going to help develop their socialization skills, I am baffled even more.
Kids need much attention. When they are in a public setting, especially on their own, they feel the need for attention, but learn to seek it the way their peers do by example: whining, screaming, manipulation, hitting, etc. I’m not saying that my kids never whine, scream or hit, but we make it unfruitful for them to do so – they don’t get what they want. To be consistent with denying their whining or screaming until they ask in a normal tone of voice or accept that no is your final answer may take 5 or even 15 minutes – for the immediate battle and a weeks to win the war. This requires a flexible environment that is rarely available in a public setting. Our experience is that being consistent in denying whining and screaming is that they quickly learn not to do it. Reinforcing this over time it then becomes a way of life.
In the public school setting kids are relatively unsupervised during activities such as lunch, recess, changing classes, gym class, bus trips, assemblies, etc. Anything goes to get what they want. They quickly learn that manipulation of various forms works to get the attention they seek. However, if they aren’t one of the “group” they may suffer verbal and sometimes physical abuse that causes them to withdraw and not want to seek communication or relationship with anyone. It only brings pain. Kids can be so cruel to one another.
If you wanted your child to learn how to bowl would you send them to a group of kids their age, or would you seek a mentor who knew how to bowl? The skill of socialization is the same as any skill. They stand to learn a skill quicker and more complete when mentored by a few that are more mature in that skill. Kids learn more how to “survive” than how to properly socialize in a public school setting. They are more likely to get more loving, supportive attention at home than in a public setting. If you communicate with your kids in a truthful mature manner they will learn to get and receive attention the same way. There are plenty of opportunities to socialize with other kids at home, in church, with homeschool groups, or in your neighbohood.
My wife and I both attended public schools growing up, and we have been enjoying the advantages of homeschooling our children for over 10 years. We understand that homeschooling is a choice, and that it is may not be for everyone. Hopefully this helped you see both sides more clearly. We hope to address some more of the debated questions in future articles.
Randall & Karen Webster have been homeschooling their 5 children for over 10 years. They offer advice and encouragement through a Free 5-part Mini-Course at Frustration Free Homeschool.
Teachable Moments Through A Family Movie Night
The Jubilee Academy
Friday, 15 November 2013 15:32
Author: Camille Rodriquez
I’ve found that one of the most fun ways to plan for “accidental” teaching moments with my kids is by having a family movie night. You might think that a family movie night would just end up with no one doing any talking, but that’s not the case at all. Our family has made a tradition out of watching movies together, and we’ve even come up with a game that has been lots of fun for all of our children, is great to play anywhere, and leads to some great parenting moments where we can easily and without lecturing, introduce our children to life issues and offer instruction for them on a variety of topics.
There are several versions of the game as we play it, but the original version is the easiest to begin with. We call it the “Movie Line” game and the idea is very simple. Everyone watches the movie as a family and enjoys the time together, but at the end of the movie, we begin to talk about the memorable lines from the film. They may be funny, sad, thought provoking, or just something that we remember, but when all of us are “replaying” the movie in this way, we can very naturally begin to talk about “why the writer did this or that thing,” “why the characters didn’t know better,” “what would my children have done differently,” etc. From these very natural conversations, we can turn just about any movie into a teachable moment as parents.
The game is very adaptable to other situations though. We can play the movie game anytime we want to just by having a member of the family call out a movie. We usually start youngest to oldest, and the person who leads the round will name a movie and then give a line from the movie. Each member of the family has to come up with another movie line from the same movie. We make the rounds until each member has been stumped except one, the winner, and then the winner gets to pick the next movie. This is a great version to play in the car, at the dinner table, or in any other place where you find that you are all together and want to have some fun. No props are needed, no game boards, just a playful spirit and a good memory!
The benefit of playing the movie game this way is that you gain insight into your children and the types of things that they remember, and the ways in which you might help them to learn other things better as well. For instance, if you child tends to recall the most ironic moments of a movie, then you know that you can use irony to teach school facts or life lessons. On the other hand, if your child tends to pick up on the lines that are the most humorous, use humor when you can to teach deeper truths. Natural learning styles will begin to come through which will help you parent more effectively, but you will also have fun while playing the game and build strong family bonds of laughter and silliness.
Have fun with it – make up your own rules, adapt to children of different ages, but consider a family movie night as a way to engage your children in meaningful play that stimulates conversation and gives you insight into their natural learning styles.
Mrs. Camille Rodriquez is a wife and mother, with experience as a pastor’s wife for more than a decade and as a homeschool mom for almost 20 years. Visit her website at National Homeschool Academy.
8 Ways to Sabotage Your Homeschool
The Jubilee Academy
Wednesday, 13 November 2013 15:53
Author: Wendy Young
The power of a successful homeschool journey cannot be over emphasized. Every parent who home schools wants to enjoy the adventure, grow close to their children and have well rounded children at the end of it. But moms hold the power to sabotage their own homeschools and often they do not even know they are doing it. Here are some warnings (and remedies) for homeschooling parents so that you are do not become one of them.
Warning #1 – You have no systems in place
How do you know this is happening? You cannot find your school books, the children cannot find their pens and pencils, your laundry is piling up and you cupboards and fridge are empty.
Solution – Take one afternoon on the weekend to plan your meals, do your grocery shopping, get your books ready for the next week and get your children to make sure their desks and pencil boxes are ready for Monday. Set up a laundry system in your home to make sure that your family has clean clothing and linens.
Warning #2 – Your children take forever to do their work
Some children are slow workers, but many are dawdlers. If your junior grade children are taking more than a 3 hours to do their work or your high schooler more than 6 hours then chances are that they are wasting time.
Solution – Make sure that you are giving your children short lessons so that dawdling is discouraged. Ensure that you alternate a hard lesson for a easier lesson. Take the time to train your children in the habit of attention so that they learn the importance of giving something their full attention and completing work in a timely fashion.
Warning #3 – Your children spend more time on school work than life
If your children are spending more than a third of their day in formal academic pursuits, it is a sure fire way of producing burnout in mom and child.
Solution – Raymond and Dorothy Moore, grandparents of the homeschooling movement, make use of a head, heart and hand principle. They said that a child’s day should be balanced equally between these three occupations. Head refers to academic pursuits; Hand refers to work in and around the home like chores and entrepreneurial activities and Heart refers to spiritual and moral training a parent should impart.
Warning #4 – Your children are allowed unlimited daily doses of TV and computer
Children should not watch TV or work on the computer everyday. It is an unhealthy situation as the stimulus that the brain receives from these two activities causes a dumbing down process where the child forgets how to entertain themselves, play out imaginary games and be productively and creatively busy – to mention just a few negatives.
Solution - Make a list of all the productive pursuits that your child can do and put to when they nag and ask for TV or their computer games. Ensure that you draw them alongside you in your day to day activities – and set the example yourself!
Warning #5 – Mom does not ensure that she is sufficiently rested
When a mom is tired, burnt out and running from play-dates to sports all afternoon and never takes a moment for a quiet cup of tea and a book, she is bound to be tense and overwrought. When mom has nothing left, she cannot give to her children and be a healing presence in her home.
Solution - Mom needs to set aside small moments in her day to take a breather. This can be a chapter of a good book, a walk around the garden, a cup of tea – on her own. It could also mean getting to bed earlier so that she can rise before her family with a small head start on her day. Mom needs to take time out monthly as well, so that she can set her hand to a craft or hobby where she can take off the “homeschooling mom hat.”
Warning #6 – The homeschooling parents talk of nothing but their children
Does it seem like whenever mom and dad go out or have a moment together, all they talk about is homeschooling and parenting? While there is time for that, it is also very important that they take time to remember that their relationship ranks right up there in importance.
Solution – Make a pact that you will do something special together, weekly or monthly, where you do not talk about homeschooling, parenting or household matters. Just enjoy being together.
Warning #7 – Parents control their children rather than build relationship with their children
This is a tough one… isn’t it? We want the best for our children; we want them to be all they were created to be and to achieve much in their lives. But often a parent will go overboard and forget that the reason they are raising children is so that they can be strong valuable members of a community.
Solution – Like a young sapling tree, protect your children as they need it. Train them in moral and spiritual guidelines as you take hold of those truths as well. As they grow and show maturity in certain areas, permit them to begin making their own decisions within the realm of what is permissible to your boundaries as a family unit.
Warning #8 – A homeschooling mom who spend too much time feeding on other lives
I left this for last because this one point can be the single most damaging thing that can happen to any homeschool. When a mom is always comparing herself and her children to what the next person is doing, what the other children have achieved, the projects that they are doing, instead of getting on and living her life with her children, she is bound to become frustrated and defeated.
Solution – Accept the season that your family is in – perhaps you have just had a baby and an in-depth unit study will sent your teetering over the edge! Perhaps your children have special needs and are not able to concentrate for long. Whatever the reason… accept the season. Also remember that each home and family is unique and your family has a specific flavor to it. When you try and bring in another family’s culture to your own, you dilute the beauty of your family.
Wendy Young is the homeschooling mom to 4 children aged 7 – 14 years. They have always been at home. She has been married for 19 years. Wendy’s website, Homeschool-Curriculum-For-Life, is dedicated to helping moms choose curriculum, get organized, and enjoy the homeschool journey by equipping them as their roles as wives, women, and moms.
Bible Character Password: A Super Bible School Activity for Elementary Kids
The Jubilee Academy
Monday, 11 November 2013 15:41
Author: Kathy Vincent
I love trying to figure out a good mystery. Maybe I should have been a detective. Trying to guess what a clue points to can be very fun. Here is a fun Bible school activity I think your kids will like that has a reminiscent feel to the old TV show game of Password where clues are given in order to reveal the hidden word. Play this along with helping your kids memorize Psalm 119:11 and you have a winning combination.
Here’s what you do:
At the end of this article, I have provided you with 10 sets of clues that point to different prominent Bible characters. You will want to write each clue on an index card and then keep each set of cards in an envelope that designates the Bible person the clues are for. Make sure your children cannot see the person’s name. You will also want some way to display each set of cards. I always use pocket charts to display my cards. You can find one at your local teacher supply store. You will also need a rendering of Psalm 119:11, which says, “I have hidden Your Word in my heart that I might not sin against You.”
Here’s how to play:
Divide your class into 2 teams. Pick someone to be the scorekeeper. Then say the following:
Psalm 119:11 says, “I have hidden Your Word in my heart that I might not sin against You.” Do you like to hide stuff? You know, like in a special place where no one can find your special treasure? God’s Word, the Bible, is the most special treasure you could ever have and the best place to hide it is in your heart. In other words, you need to memorize it and really know it well so that it can change your life from the inside out.
Some of you know some Bible verses and some of the great stories and people of the Bible. Today, we are going to play a game called “Bible Character Password” to see just how much of God’s Word you really have hidden in your heart.
I have a set of clues I am going to give that describes an important person in the Bible. I will give one clue at a time to each team. The team I give the clue to will have 10 seconds to try and guess who the clue is referring to. If your team is successful, you will earn 100 points. If your team is not successful, the other team will be given an additional clue and then they will have 10 seconds to guess the Bible person. Whoever guesses first will get the points. After each successful guess, I will pick someone from the team that guessed correctly to recite Psalm 119:11. If that person says the verse right, then they will earn their team another 100 points. By the way, if no one guesses the Bible Character from the clues given, no team earns points for that set of clues. OK! Let’s play!
Suggestions for Success:
- You might want to recite Psalm 119:11 over several times as a group to help them memorize it.
- This game can end up going slow or fast according to your kids’ knowledge. Either way, it’s a fun way to get them to memorize Psalm 119:11.
- You can give the clues in any order you would like. Some clues are easy and some are difficult.
Sets of Clues
Abraham: Great faith, stars, promise, Sarah, Isaac, Ishmael, Lot, sacrifice of son.
Jacob: Deceiver, 12 sons, wrestled with God, Esau, Isaac, 2 wives.
Joseph: Slave, dreamer, 12 brothers, coat, Egypt, jailed, Potipher, Jacob.
Moses: Special staff, desert wanderer, prince, burning bush, Red Sea, Commandments.
Samuel: Godly mother, dedicated at birth, heard God speak, Judge of Israel, wicked sons, anointed Saul as king.
Saul: First king of Israel, anointed king by Samuel, Jonathan, tried to kill David, asks a witch for wisdom, David sang to him
David: King, Goliath, psalms, Jonathan, Bathsheba, Solomon, slingshot, shepherd
Solomon: Temple builder, David, wisdom, Ecclesiastes, Song of Songs, Queen of Sheba
Elijah: Miracles, fed by ravens, chariot of fire, endless flour and oil, raised boy from the dead, Mount Carmel, prayed for rain, mount of transfiguration
Paul: Pharisee, shipwrecked, temporarily blind, road to Damascus, missionary, wrote letters
Kathy Vincent is the director of a performing ministry for children called The Scripture Lady and has been traveling around Southern California for the past 15 years ministering to preschoolers and elementary aged children with the Word of God through musical, thematic presentations. She is also a regular seminar speaker, author/creator of over 30 products for the Christian children’s worker and a veteran homeschooling mom of two.